tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-756245236982256401.post8232269951257381347..comments2023-03-26T00:40:58.422-07:00Comments on Pop Psychology: The Game: Not Penetrating All That MuchJesse Marczykhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05528467206826018008noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-756245236982256401.post-63511846447544120962012-06-13T11:44:37.149-07:002012-06-13T11:44:37.149-07:00I still can't tell whether Ian's posts are...I still can't tell whether Ian's posts are parody.Joehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12596835688046275796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-756245236982256401.post-86486674900394125872012-03-05T03:40:16.324-08:002012-03-05T03:40:16.324-08:00Actually, that's a great example of the differ...Actually, that's a great example of the difference between playing a role and being it. In real life he's way too attention-seeking and unconfident to really pull off "womanizing alpha-male". Compare the lead singer in the video to the way he performs the same song on stage: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vUXDgqS1F4Y&feature=related<br /><br />He gets lots of hot girls on the stage with him but he doesn't have the confidence to pull it off, and they all kind of ignore him. Poor guy, shit gets awkward.Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17086556652163338236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-756245236982256401.post-53904257484623594832012-03-05T03:29:29.455-08:002012-03-05T03:29:29.455-08:00Oh and I was trawling through your archives since ...Oh and I was trawling through your archives since writing this. Honestly, while I don't agree with the details of what you're writing, I'll say two things: you write well, given that I read it all, and the video you posted about game and being nice to girls was hilarious.<br /><br />Now, for a video on what game really looks like, to guys who are willing to truly sacrifice being a woman-positive feminist for getting laid all the time. And the nationality of said band? French. Who'da thunk it.<br /><br />Seriously, this guy's whole persona, facial expressions, all of it just exudes alpha male. Girls would throw themselves at this guy, at least, ones who don't expect or want a relationship.<br /><br />http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ngHDYzhDBk4Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17086556652163338236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-756245236982256401.post-18765061954313546022012-03-05T02:13:42.011-08:002012-03-05T02:13:42.011-08:00Don’t call a woman back for a few days? You’ve sig...Don’t call a woman back for a few days? You’ve signalled that you’re not particularly invested in her. Tease her like she’s your little sister? You’ve signalled that you’re not intimidated by attractive women. Call her back the next day, but project confidence (such a tricky thing to describe, but you know it when you see it) and talk her into coming over for sex? You’ve shown a mastery of social skills that indicates power and wealth and excellent opportunities for any potential offspring.<br /><br />I spent this weekend sleeping over with a girl I’ve been fucking. Saturday night I went out with my friends, hooked up with a Chinese girl who’s a successful accountant, went home to the other girl’s house, passed out, slept with her in the morning, kicked her out of bed and told her to make me breakfast (which she did, did I mention I’m staying at her boyfriend’s house while he’s overseas), then went home and fucked another girl I’ve been sleeping with. They all know about each other, and it just makes them want to sleep with me more because hey, if two other girls agree that you’re a desireable person, that’s one helluva crowd-sourced tick of approval.<br /><br />And the fact is that my mom is a rabid feminist, I’m all about women’s rights, but I’ve come to learn that if you treat women a certain way they’ll respond to it. Hell, they even agree that I’m a nice guy. I don’t let my ability to manipulate them go to my head, I’m really friendly to all of them, I’m honest, and as Dan Savage would say, I follow the campsite rule (leave them better than you found them). And as for me, casual sex with lots of women does wonders for one’s mental health.<br /><br />I’d really like to go into more detail about this, but I’m already blowing out the reasonable-person comment size. The fact is that social skills and the dance of game theory that is human social dynamics is far, far more complicated than the evo psych establishment gives credit. You guys are writing out the rules of chess – there are men out there, men who sleep with literally hundreds of women, that are playing that game at a higher strategic level than you can imagine. Really, I’m just a dabbler.<br /><br />Read Chateau Heartiste (heartiste.wordpress.com) and realise that although those guys are rightwing nutjobs with a serious hatred of women, their ability to manipulate women is not imaginary. It’s real. This shit works. The sooner evolutionary psychologists get over their hang-ups and write some papers the sooner you can get rid of whatever mental blindspots are stopping them from accurately describing human nature.Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17086556652163338236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-756245236982256401.post-39334468980004377892012-03-05T02:12:51.798-08:002012-03-05T02:12:51.798-08:00All I can say is, don't knock it 'til you&...All I can say is, don't knock it 'til you've tried it.<br /><br />Yes, the pick-up artist community leaves a lot to be desired, and yes, there are no short-term fixes to lack of ability to get women. But I assure you, absolutely, positively assure you, the overall theory is sound. <br /><br />If all you've read about pick-up is The Game then you haven't really read anything about it at all. The Game is more a book about what's possible. It's like reading Moneyball to learn how to apply statistics to running a baseball team: you'll end up thinking "that guy sure can run a baseball team, but I wonder how he actually did it?" They're both popularizations of a tremendously complicated subject, and as such they throw out all the detail and replace it with narrative.<br /><br />So, what is game, really? In short, it's a discipline that attempts to take complex, unconscious social skills and break them down into simple, logical behavioural patterns that anyone can understand. And remember, these skills are *unconscious* (thanks Rob Kurzban).<br />The thing about “game” is that it is literally that: a subset of wider game theory. We have multiple actors, attempting to get a useful outcome, in competition (and sometimes cooperation) with each other, utilizing partial information. Women are attempting to gain an investment of genes and resources from a high value male. Men are attempting to gain an investment of reproductive ability from a high value female, and in some cases an investment of resources as well.<br /><br />The hard part for men and especially women, is trying to judge whether the other party is “high value”. For men, a woman’s reproductive value is large dependent on a combination of age and genetic quality, at least when we’re dealing with short-term matings. Yes, when you’re picking a long-term spouse with which to have a cooperative relationship (go teamwork!) it becomes important for her to be socially successful with a compatible personality. Nobody likes a clingy nut-job. But for short-term matings men like’em young and beautiful (more chance of kids, less chance of STDs).<br /><br />For women however, things get complicated. I always like to say that “men fuck looks but women fuck attitude”. A fat 40 year old man with tons of confidence will need a bigger stick to beat off all the women who want to sleep with him. A 25 year old male model who cries himself to sleep every night can go for months without sex.<br /><br />And this is where game and pick-up artistry come in. The secret to game is two-fold: it’s a behavioural modification program that teaches men to signal success and happiness to prospective mates, and it’s a lifestyle that brings in enough regular sex to shift your subconscious instincts into a state of high-social-status confidence.Ianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17086556652163338236noreply@blogger.com